Saturday, March 17, 2012

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Some people think that when they lie about their real status in life (I mean by telling people that "back where I am from I am this and that and I have all these and that...blah...blah...blah...) they gain more respect, that they gain more friends, that others will treat them as if they are untouchables or some kind of royals. The truth is all they gain out of this illusions are raised eyebrows and sarcastic "really eh?". So why on earth are you here? Why the need to endure a life far-away from your family  when in fact you are born with a silver spoon and a golden platter?
"We come to a foreign land for a common reason - we need to work because what we earn in the Philippines is not enough to sustain our growing needs and the needs of our growing family. It's a fact and let's be proud of that."   
When I worked in a private school in the Philippines for six years, I got the chance to interact with really well-off and I mean really rich people. My students back then were those whose parents own gasoline stations, famous hotels and restaurants, department stores, and really big businesses in the city but there are two things that I admire about them - they were sincere and very down-to-earth. I believe my colleagues in school will agree with me if I say that those parents never gave us this feeling that we have to be intimidated by them because they were millionaires and we  were just plain teachers. My apologies for the comparison but I just can't help it because I have met several individuals who are seem to be blinded with the riches they just got hold. Boy, how they act as if they are the world's richest and talk as if nobody is above them.  

Sure there's nothing wrong with opening up or sharing about your personal life to others but hey, do you really have to tell them that you are living a good life in our country and that you don't really need to do this OFW thing? Oh? Really? Come on...don't be silly! Are you actually trying to fool us or yourself?  We come to a foreign land for a common reason - we need to work because what we earn in the Philippines is not enough to sustain our growing needs and the needs of our growing family. It's a fact and let's be proud of that. 

I admire people who don't deny their humble beginnings. I admired Shamcey Supsup even more when she said her number 1 inspiration is her mother who started out as very poor in Basilan province but eventually made it through because of hard work and perseverance (Click the link for Shamcey's Facebook Post). Now, that is something worthy of a crown. 


38 comments:

  1. I'm definitely with you. I remember tuloy when I was in grade school. Most of my classmates had really nice cars, but during that time, we don't own a car yet but a really used and abused delivery truck (which we use for a living). Being a 7-year old, I was embarrassed. But, I eventually learned to accept that it's okay. It's better to come out clean than make up lies which don't only fool others, but ourselves.. :) Eh ano naman kung wala akong fancy ride? At least may sasakyan pa rin.. haha.. XD

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  2. Tomohhh...eh ako nga lakad lang na nakatsinelas...kc di uso sa province ang sasakyan...kahit nga ngayon na uso na - ala pa rin..hahay...kalurky! Thanks for dropping Sumi.

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  3. same here.. I admire most those people who never pretend, ung mga di nahihiya na i-share ung buhay nila sa iba kahit na anu pa man sila.. lalo na sa ibang bansa :)

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  4. I agree 100%....it's the reality---

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  5. Being an ofw ,i know how you feel with some OFW who were acting like they are well off back home .We all work overseas for moneyso wag magyabang.

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  6. duh???

    if confronted with the same situation, where somebody would lie about their real status, sometimes my biatch side would somehow creep up and just tell the person, "so, why are you here???" hahaha! but anyway, i think the best way to deal with this is just to raise an eyebrow and bot say anything at all. lol!

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  7. yung karamihan, they lie para maging "IN" sa mga barkada.. ;( which is very wrong..

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  8. I agree with you Enzo, I also admire them, maybe that's the secret behind their success

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  9. saludo tlaga aq sa mga OFW! sabi nga sa bawat tagumpay may puhunan na inspirasyon...Sarap humarap sa tagumpay kapag kaya mong balikan ang pinagmulan(emo) kudos!

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  10. Be what you are and the people will trust you! Rather than be hypocrite that when the people learn the truth about you'll be ostracize and even condemn by them as liars, nincompoops!

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  11. definitely true...nice one :)

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  12. I'm proud that I'm a son of an OFW :) Pinalaki at pinag aral kami ni mama nang mag isa. Hehe, naalala ko lang, sinelas ginagamit namin magkakapatid paalis ng bahay. sa school na kami magsasapatos para di kagad masira. tsaka di ko rin kinakahiyang mahirap kami, kasi simpple ang buhay namin. simpleng problema, simple ring maabot ang kaligayahan :)

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  13. I experience the very same thing.. but from a different angle. My family is well-off. Hindi kami super rich millionaires, but we have plenty and some to spare, and people know that. Pero syempre, money ng parents ko yun. When I was in highschool, even college, there were hard times. Dumating din ang mga araw na nagigipit kami.. ako. And people had a hard time accepting it. When I asked my friend if she could loan me some money kasi kinapos lang, tinaasan lang ako ng kilay. hehe..

    Wala ba akong karapatang gipitin din, kahit minsan lang? I go through hard times, too. People expect that rich people will be rich forever. Same goes to the poor.. Poor people will be poor forever. Which is bull! Times change. Circumstances change. Tsk tsk.

    Wala.. feel ko lang magshare. haha!

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  14. Yes! I know someone like this. Hehe I wonder why people nowadays act as if they have everything even though they don't? It doesn't naman talaga. But for some yes. Maybe kasi they have $$$ enough but for some who don't why not be contented in what they have and be happy for that? Eh. Sad reality :/

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  15. we all need to work our assess off to satisfy our needs and wants, parepareho lng naman tau kahit cguro ung mga mayayaman un din ang reason kaso ung wants nila sobra sobra...

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  16. as always people who don't pretend is always admired..mas madali ang buhay kong walang tinatago..

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  17. nothing beats being truthful to oneself...

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  18. yeah so true. Most rich people are so humble, my boss who is very rich don't mind taking a taxi or a train whenever we don't have available car to pick him up from the airport and he stays at 3 star hotels and eat meals with us in regular "turo-turo". Most of those "noisy" ones are those "rich for a day" they don't even know how to control their spending, all they know is how to brag.. well goodluck to them they won't stay rich for so long.. ;)

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  19. Everything comes out one way or another ... why bother lying? Mukhang tanga lang pag nabuking na.

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  20. Agree ako sayo Enzo. I have encounter people like that and for me they are just seeking for attention. Sometimes nga mas humble and down to earth pa yung mga rich.

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  21. I admire people who don't deny their humble beginnings. <-- i have to agree with this so much! this is such a beautiful trait.

    dropping' by =)

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  22. With my work..
    I tend to meet a lot of people.. rich or poor.
    if the truth be told, most of the rich tend to take a low profile,
    While those who banter too much may have a questionable kernel in their arsenal..
    So let it not upset you!
    Class is not something earned by money!

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  23. there are many types of people so I just don't mind those who aren't worthy to be written about and that's right praise those who are humble

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  24. What great timing... I just read Mabuhay where they reference Gilbert Chesterson "(Gilbert) connects security with success and said, 'It's always the secure who are humble.'"

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  25. I am also a daughter of an OFW and I am the only child of my parents. Though, I got mostly what I want when I was younger, growing up alone is really sad. So, I thought, to have friends I have to treat my classmates during lunch breaks, pay for their projects, etc. Pero when my dad got some issues with his employer, i was not able to get help from the people i thought my friends. Lesson learned, its not about the money, money, money. LOL *just kidding*
    Hindi nabibili ang mga kaibigan. Hindi nabibili ang tiwala. Kaya now, I treasure my true friends.
    Thanks for sharing this post. This brought me back to my childhood day. =)

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  26. those who don't have are those that try to hard. i encounter so many of this type every day of my life. and i pity them. they haven't realized that it's not all about the money or your status in life that count....but i hope they do. they lose more if they don't....

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  27. I am proud, I only knew one or two people of that kind and really don't have to deal with them.

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  28. secured people doesn't show off... because they know they have nothing to prove. Yahweh bless.

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  29. Just goes to show na hindi porke't mayaman, maganda na ang ugali. Hindi nabibili ng pera ang character and good manners.

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  30. That's sad but is really true. They thought they can fool others but actually they are fooling themselves. tsk tsk tsk!

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  31. I personally know some rich people who are very humble and down to earth also people who became instantly rich and never remember who helped them when they can't even eat two times a day. Nakakaawa lang.

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  32. I hate it when someone lies about something they are not. Tsk tsk tsk.

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  33. i agree with you Enzo! by co-incidence the Sunday School lesson I taught awhile ago is about illusions that Satan or his allies create in an attempt to detour, dilute and divert our power and attention from pure truth! But like you said who can be fooled?and what did he gain from it - high eyebrows!

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  34. Whenever I attend events here in Manila I listen and observed people. Some are judgmental, some are secretive, some are humble and some are bitches. Since I am pretty new in the scene, I never thought that I will be a victim of a wrong sagacity when I first attended an event. I was not aware of the issues surrounding this events so I was caught unguarded and boy did it made me so mad. But then again, who am I to defend myself to those people who barely know me, but has judge me harshly just the same.

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  35. Exactly sir. We have tons of them here, haven't we? hehe..Kidding aside, this post is an eye opener and something we can't just ignore and let go. True in all its sense!

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  36. I like how straightforward this post is. I remember my dad always telling me that coins make a lot of noise whereas bills do not. People who really have what it takes are mostly the ones who are quiet and humble. I also agree with what you said. Minsan kasi nasosobrahan na sa "pagpo-promote" ng sarili kaya napapa-raise ka na rin ng eyebrows. :)

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  37. I totally agree! I commend the boldness of the writer. Sometimes I get intimidated but my parents thought me not to tell lies (but of course, I'm just a human and sinful). Pero I pretending is a big No-No to me. I'm happy and contented with what I have today :) GOD bless

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